"If you want something and your husband says no...Do you order it anyways??? And it will have to go on the credit card because it's not available in stores??? What to do???"
I took a screen shot of every one's responses. I blacked out any names and pictures for their privacy and because I didn't know a single one of these people. You can see what my response was at the bottom. There were people that posted past me but I think you get the point from these responses.
Like I said, I don't know any of these people. I could very well be taking these answers out of context BUT I couldn't believe that not a single one of these women suggested she honor her husbands wishes to not order the item. There is of course always something that becomes circumstantial. For instance, Adam's surprise party. For weeks leading up to it, I budgeted a little bit of what we would normally put in savings for the party. In the end I came clean.
I grew up learning from my parents extremely traditional relationship where everything was shared and the saying "what's mine is yours" was one to live by. I 100% realize that is not the norm for a lot of people. I know times have changed dramatically and now you hear of more and more couples keeping separate bank accounts. But truthfully, for me, it's not about the money that is going to be spent or who works harder for their money. It's the fact that I choose to respect my husbands feelings because I expect him to respect mine. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would be upset that he went behind my back after we had a conversation prior to the purchase and I thought we had an understanding he wasn't going to buy whatever it was. I was most blown away by this comment made by the girl who originally posted the status "...always have a secret cash stash ( I put all my babysitting $ in mine, but you can take out cash at the groc too and it looks like u just bought groceries)." I'm starting to think from the sounds of it that I missed a memo.
Make sense or completely ridiculous to you? I've had this screen shot on my computer for weeks now because I wasn't sure at first if I even wanted to blog about it. I thought it over and my feelings didn't change on the subject so I figured I would put it out here to see what other women thought.
Am I the crazy one??